Friday Favorites ~ ?

I have to apologize, I don't have anything for you today. My week has been too crazy for me to even think about something I'd consider a favorite to write about.

I'll try to be better next week.....

Happy Birthday to my Bug!

I promise that's the last time I'll call him my bug, after all he did turn 9 a little over a week ago. It was quite the celebration. The Saturday before his birthday Ronnie and I did our best to entertain Ethan, Sophia, and 8 of Ethan’s friends. Luckily we had a plan and somehow, unlike every year before, I didn’t fell rushed or stressed out. We all had lunch, opened presents, had cake and ice cream, and then took them all to see Kung Fu Panda. This movie was so entertaining, but with an amazing cast of voices, including Jack Black, what else would you expect. Of course, since Ethan has been taking Kung Fu for almost two years, he was ecstatic when we agreed to take them all to see it. The plan was to drop all the kids off at their houses on the way home from the movie, but that isn’t what happened. All but one of the boys ended up coming back to our house to play. Ronnie ended up pulling the slip and slide out and they all had so much fun. It was interesting seeing Ethan with his friends, to see how they interact with each other, they were even great with Sophia tagging along. Ronnie was a big hit with the kids, of course. He hasn’t forgotten how to be a kid himself and they love that.
My Mom and Jess were out of town the day of Ethan’s birthday, so we decided to wait until they got back to have Ethan’s birthday dinner. We have this “tradition”, you get to choose where we go to dinner on your birthday, for weeks Ethan has been talking about going to Tepanyaki (Benihana type restaurant), it’s his favorite, but a little expensive for some. As the day got closer he started to change his mind, and it seemed he was swayed with every suggestion, Chili’s, Applebee’s, even Training Table, but this Sunday we ended up at Sizzler. The kid’s think the salad bar is fun, so as soon as anyone suggests it, that’s where they want to go and since it was his choice, that’s where we went. It was us, my Mom, Jess, JD and Kenna. There were a few people that couldn’t make it, and we missed having them there.
Ethan got some great presents; a remote control car, remote control truck, remote control boat, new riding gear, and lots of toys. But I think his favorite gift was from my brother J.D. and Kenna, somehow they manage to outdo the rest of us every gift giving holiday (not that it’s a contest or anything), but this occasion was no different. They bought Ethan a hat and a wallet, but not any wallet; it’s one of those wallets that have the chain that you hook to your belt loop. He thinks it’s the coolest thing ever!
Every once in a while the kids will do or say something that leave us in awe over how grown up they are and confirm that we are doing a good job raising them. The day before his birthday dinner Ethan said he was going to call Aunt Denise to invite them. He wanted to Monte, Denise, Ally, and Chandler to join his birthday dinner, and these are his words verbatim “they don’t have to bring me a present; I just want my family to be together for my birthday”. I almost cried, he’s such an amazing young man, I couldn’t be prouder! But I’m still having a hard time with how fast he’s growing up; I guess it’s a mom thing.

Live a Better Life

I received an email from a friend today and I wanted to share it:

40 Ways to Live a Better Life

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is to __________ today.'
5. Live with the 3 E's—Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
6. Play more games and read more books than you did in last year.
7. Make time to practice meditation, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, OR issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the negative blues away.
18. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?'
26. Forgive everyone for everything.
27. What other people think of you is none of your business.
28. Remember God heals everything.
29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
31. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
33. The best is yet to come.
34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
35. Do the right thing!
36. Call your family often.
37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for _______. Today I accomplished ____.
38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.
40. Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can't change

Sure makes you think, doesn't it? We really do have a wonderful life.

I'd like to believe I do most of these everyday.

Friday Favorites ~ Lip Gloss

I've never been a fan of lipstick, I've always thought lip gloss was a better option. I love the shine a good lip gloss produces, not to mention, they usually taste great. I'm somewhat addicted to Bath and Body Works lip glosses. More specifically the C.O. Bigelow Mentha Lip Buffer, the C.O. Bigelow Ultra Mentha Lip Shine, the Liplicious Limeade, and the Liplicious Fruit Punch.

C.O. Bigelow
Mentha Lip Buffer Gentle Formula

This is a wonderful mint flavored lip exfoliator. Perfect for chapped dry lips.

C.O. Bigelow
Ultra Mentha Lip Shine

Not only a shiny lip gloss, but very minty to help keep your breath minty fresh.

Liplicious
Lip Gloss - Sheer
Limeade

I have several at these at all times. The glistening shine paired with one of my favorite flavors-lime, makes this one of my absolute favorites.

Liplicious
Lip Gloss
Fruit Punch

Wonderful gloss with a tint of color and shine. Not to mention the taste of Fruit Punch!

Go try one for yourself! Why not try them all!

Ethan Turns 9

I'm having a hard time dealing with the idea that my baby boy is 9, halfway to 18! It's gone by way too fast.

As a mother I couldn't be prouder of him. Everyday he seems to find a new way to amaze me. He has this innate ability to be good at everything he tries (he gets that from Ronnie). No matter what it is, if he wants to do it, he does. For example, before he turned 3, he wanted his training wheels off his bike. I was so afraid for him to get hurt. Ronnie took them off and we both watched with great anxiety, as he rode away, without a wobble or crash. There have been a few times since then that he's come in with road rash from crashing, but that's only when he gets this crazy notion that he is a professional bicycle stuntman (thanks to the movie Rad).

Over the years I've watched him grow from this tiny baby with bird legs into a tough little man, as he's come out of his shell and become more confident in himself, as he's made the change from an only child to a wonderful big brother to Sophia. He's made this great transition from being "one" of a group, you know the "followers", to finding his own self, and becoming an amazing individual.

This year I want to give him a gift that lets him know how proud I am of him, and confirm to him that we believe he's heading in the right direction to become that brillant man we see in him. I guess my first gift to him could be to stop calling him "bug", at least in public.

Well, I guess I'll let you in on what he gets after the birthday festivities conclude, but I can show you what we got him last year.

Shortie

Buying a puppy was a big step, but he was ready for the responsiblity. He picked him out himself, and choose this puppy because, like Ethan, he had a mohawk, only his was white. It's gone now and he's not a puppy anymore, but Ethan still helps take care of him, just another reason I'm so proud of him.

Friday Favorties ~ Lemi Shine

I'm no stranger when it comes to cleaning or cleaning products. Growing up with my Mom I think we've tried it all. I don't think there has ever been a time when I've told her something about cleaning, little hints or products, that she hasn't already not only heard of but most of the time has tried. So when I mentioned Lemi Shine to her and she hadn't heard of it, I was so proud of myself for finding something so amazing all on my own.

I found this product one day while I was mulling over what dishwasher detergent to buy. Now this isn't detergent, it's more of an addition to your regular detergent. It's most common use is in the dishwasher, it helps get the dishes sparkling clean. You can use it to clean your coffee pot, disposal, shower doors, windows, water fixtures, etc. I love this stuff, I don't think I've done a load of dishes without it since I first tried it. Not to mention it has a great fresh lemon scent.

My local grocer sells this, but if you're unable to find it in your store you can purchase it on the offical website at www.lemishine.com.

Know the Signs

I don’t even know where to start this post. I’m at a loss for words.

One of my closest friends is having to deal with a difficult situation right now. One of their dearest loved ones attempted to take their own life. Luckily it was a failed attempt. I cannot comprehend the sorrow or pain that my friend or their loved one must be feeling. I only hope they are able to get the help they need and so deserve so that they are able to move forward and have a happy, fulfilling life.

I want my friend to know that I am here if they need anything at all!

*(I've left out names and "he" or "she" for the purpose of anonymity)

I’m asking everyone to please know the warning signs so that you are aware and are able to seek help for you or your loved ones before it's too late.

• Talking about Dying
• Recent Loss (this can include death, divorce, loss of job, money, etc)
• Changes in Personality
• Changes in Behavior
• Changes in Sleeping Patterns
• Changes in Eating Habits
• Diminished Sexual Interest
• Fear of Losing Control
• Low Self Esteem
• Hopeless feeling (believing things will never get better)
• Giving away prized possesions

These are only a few of the signs. If you or anyone you love is experiencing any of these symptoms, please seek help.

For more information log onto:
www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

My Son is a Rock Star!

Sophia, Ethan, Jayden, Justin, & Kambri checking out the competition

Maybe its just because I'm his mom, but I think for his age, catching air like this is awesome!

*Thanks Heather for the great pictures- You've inspired me to try harder with my photography skills....and to buy a better camera!

Friday Favorites ~ perfume

It has been said that smells can evoke stong emotional reactions. Most of us have experienced the flood of memories and emotions that come with certain smells. For example, when I smell a certain face powder I get flooded with wonderful memories of my Grandma Lugo, when I smell leather gloves I'm reminded of my Grandpa and Grandma Casper and the horse stables they always had when I was growing up.

I really don't have any bad memories attached to smells, just happy times. Maybe that's why I love smells and perfume so much. I love the idea of someone being overwhelmed with happy memories of me as they walk past someone wearing a fragrance I've worn.

Here are some of my favorites:


Princess by Vera Wang

Created for the playful, unpredictable, independent woman who treats every day like an event and adventure. This is a woman who likes to make her own magic, this sheer, flirty blend of water lily, lady apple, mandarin meringue, and golden apricot skin are melded with sheer floral notes, accented with dark chocolate, and finished with a pink frosting accord, amber, warm woods, musk, and vanilla - a whimsical treat. (This is what I've been wearing lately)



Fantasy by Brittany Spears

A fragrance inspired by love's ability to overwhelm you when you least expect it. Fantasy is a captivating blend of ripe fruits, sweet cupcake accord, delicate flowers, creamy musk, orris root, and sensual woods. (Ronnie loves the cupcake smell)


Tommy Girl by Tommy Hilfiger

The following notes are combined to create this floral perfume: On the top, black currant bud, apple, tangerine, mandarin, and spearmint. In the middle, heather, honeysuckle, violet, rose, magnolia, jasmine and lily, and on the bottom sandalwood and cedarwood.


Realm by Erox

Realm perfume - is a floral, oriental sweet perfume. Designed in 1993 as a refreshing, subtle fragrance. The composition of the top note is of mandarin, water lily and peony. The middle note consists of pheromone, honey and rose; the base of the fragrance is made of vanilla and cedar. Realm is the first perfume using human pheromone and is recommended for romantic use. (This is what I was wearing when I met Ronnie-good memories there)


Happy by Clinique

A chic, modern, multi-layered floral with sparkling, lingering fragrance of Ruby Red Grapefruit, Boysenberry Bush Flower and Hawaiian Wedding Flower



Angel By Thierry Mugler

Angel Is Classified As A Refreshing, Oriental, Woody Fragrance. This Feminine Scent Possesses A Blend Of Vanilla, Sandalwood, And Patchouli. Accompanied By Fruity Notes Of Fresh Citrus, Melons, Peaches, And Plums". The perfume is sold in crystal looking bottles that offer a variety of colors (purple, red, blue) and the descriptions for the Angel perfume is celestial with references to the stars. I love this scent, but it's totally my mom's fragrance. Ronnie won't kiss me when I'm wearing it, he says its like kissing my mom!

Somthing so Good, Ruined by Something so Bad

More then a decade ago I spent a few years working at a bank and I loved it. I adored my coworkers, we were like family. I worked in a small branch and we really had the opportunity to form relationships with the members that would come in and visit during their weekly trip to the bank; I enjoyed the familiarity of these visits. They would frequently share stories with us, tell us of there news, sometimes even make us laugh so hard we could barely breathe. These are some great memories for me and there are times I really miss that job. So you may ask, if everything was so great, why I chose to quit. Well let me share a story with you about something that happened ten years ago this month.

It was a normal day, we were rotating through lunches and at one point there were only three of us there, sitting at the teller line chatting, gossiping and giggling away. The next thing I knew there was a guy standing in front of me, pointing a gun in my face and I was putting money in a bag he was holding open. He was covered from head to toe in black, the only part of him that was visible was his eyes, and as soon as I looked at him, there was something familiar about him. I am convinced he saw that recognition click in me and it seemed to freak him out. After we all emptied our drawers into his bag he made us lay on our stomachs on the floor. He hovered over us, pointing his gun at each of us; we just knew that was it. I remember at one point, me and one of the other girls grabbing each others hands, I don’t remember if either of them were crying, but I’m sure I was. And then as fast as he appeared, he was gone. I know it didn’t last more then a few minutes, but it seemed like an eternity.

As it turned out, that familiarity we had with our members came in very useful that day. He happened to have an account with our bank and I wasn’t the only one that recognized him. After reliving the experience with the investigating officers, they called in a counselor, who came in and talked with us, and then they sent us home for the day. My family and friends tried to keep me busy for the better part of that evening, and I didn’t watch the news. What I found out the next day is that there was a chase and some sort of a standoff; unfortunately he ended up taking his own life. I know some of my coworkers seemed relieved it was over, but I think it actually made it worse for me. I was horrified knowing that gun he had pointed at us was real, with real bullets, and he wasn’t afraid to use it. I know what he did was wrong, I know how terrifying the whole experience was and I know there needed to be consequences for his actions. But I also whole heartedly believe that while what he did was wrong, it wasn’t who he was. There was more to him then just someone who made a terrible decision and terrorized three innocent people while he robbed a bank. The reality was he made a series of bad choices that ultimately left him believing he had no other options but to end his life. I know he has a family that loves him and is most likely still grieving to this day.

After Ethan was born, I did go back to work part time, but the memory of what had happened continued to haunt me. After becoming a mother the risk seemed to be too great, I needed to know that when I went to work everyday, I would be coming home safely to my husband and son.

I still miss the girls I worked with. We need to get together some time and reminisce. Trisha, Angie, Allison, Terra, Ingrid….I’ll be waiting for one of you to plan that!